When I started working to heal my inner child, I had no idea of what an immense impact it would have on my life.
I always suspected that there were things in my past that were unresolved, wounds that stood in the way of my efforts to create deep, healthy, and happy relationships.
However, it was not until I got my hands dirty with this modality of inner work that I was able to find answers to certain questions that have plagued me forever.
I was able to find clarity and understand the reasons why I repeatedly faced certain unhealthy patterns of relationship or why I reacted so disproportionally emotional to experiences of abandonment, rejection, criticism, or displacement.
I understood that when our inner child is sitting behind the control panel of our consciousness, relationships become a vehicle to express the original pain, to recreate family patterns, to try to win the lost battle, the one for the love, protection and acceptance of our parents.
Unhealed wounds manifest as patterns of behaviours and defense mechanisms that, instead of helping us connect, they drive us away from others, turn us into wounded and desperate animals that attack or let themselves be attacked in a reactive and uncontrolled way.
When we relate from the wounded inner child the world is threatening, and our concept of love resembles more of a battlefield than a safe haven.
We march through life with our hearts armored, blaming the outside for what we generate and consistently choose from within.
If this scenario seems familiar to you, I invite you to pause, open your eyes and lower your weapons.
It’s time to turn to the little boy or girl who calls you.
If we are to relate in a new and healthier way, we must turn towards their pain, listen, understand, comfort them.
We must stop chasing love out there and start providing it inwards.
Author: Jo Garner
